Resources for Funerals and Memorial Services

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Contacting a funeral director

A doctor has to issue a death certificate. Once you have a death certificate, contact your funeral director to discuss arrangements. Advise the funeral director that you would like me to conduct the service and they will then contact me.

Your funeral director will organise the administrative details, such as the registration of the death certificate (usually obtained from the deceased’s doctor) and help you to decide on where and when to hold the service, cremation or interrment, flowers, transport and other aspects of the service. I will arrange to talk with you and other family members about what will be an appropriate commemoration for the deceased, as well as a consolation to the bereaved family and friends.

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The celebrant’s fees

Usually, the celebrant’s fees are included in the costs of the funeral director.

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Suggestions on how to write a eulogy

The eulogy is the central part of the service. It consists of a brief biography of the deceased and some description of their character and attributes. In many ways, it can be viewed as a celebration of the deceased person’s life.

Here are some points to begin writing the eulogy. Of course, don’t be limited by these:

  • Deceased’s name and nickname
  • Date of birth, birthplace and names of parents and siblings
  • Early life and schooling
  • Qualifications and work history
  • Married life, children and grandchildren
  • Family life
  • Personality, characteristic sayings or humour
  • Community service and achievements
  • Hobbies and pets
  • Music, entertainment or sporting interests
  • Last days before death.

You may be in the midst of funeral preparations and arrangements and do not have the time or effort to gather information and write a short speech. A method that can be helpful and promote the process of healing is to gather immediate family and close friends to contribute to the writing of the eulogy.

The eulogy does not have to be delivered by one person. It can be shared between family members and loved ones, each concentrating on a facet of the deceased’s life.

Remember, your celebrant is there to assist in the preparation of the eulogy at all times. The eulogy can be prepared and read by the celebrant if required.

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Links of interest

Poetry and quotes

Songs and music